Brain dump #1- Life’s Quirky Glimpse- A reminder to get out of your head.

So.

I’ve decided to introduce “Brain Dumps” into my blog.

These “Brain Dumps” are going to be quick little blurbs that have nothing to do with the books I’m reading.

Just cooky little bits of my brain. ðŸĪŠ

Here we go.

I love to walk.

Love. Love. Love to walk.

It gives me time to let my mind wonder while moving my body and getting my endorphins up. Fresh air in my lungs, a wee bit of sunshine, Etc.

In fact, I’ve come to my most significant realizations while walking.

Also, bonus perk, it definitely helps with my depression and anxiety.

Are you sold on walking yet? Haha

Ninety percent of the time, you will find we walking a million little circles around my “Tin Can” (which is what I lovingly call my tiny prefab home.)

I usually pound about one-six miles worth of little circles into the ground per evening. The equivalent of anywhere from thirty minutes – two hours worth of pussy footing around. *Does that count as a pun? ðŸĪĢ

A lot of time spent seeing and being in the same tiny area.

The point?

When I was walking a couple of days ago I saw something that I hadn’t seen in my tiny little marching bubble before.

A WHOLE F*CKING STREET!!!

How, in the holy hell, could I have missed an entire street?

It stopped me in my tracks.

“I’ll be damned”, I thought to myself.

It was kind of camouflaged behind this chicken coop thingy and a dilapidated tear drop trailer, but still, definitely should have noticed that sucker.

What did I think was back there?

For some odd reason I just subconsciously envisioned some big ass field behind the chicken coop….thingy.

Why am I writing about this?

Well, it struck me as an important moment.

A quirky little reminder of an important life lesson I’ve been trying to practice my whole life.

Get Out of Your Head

and

Look Around You.

Now, I’m not trying to contradict myself here. I realize that earlier I had mentioned the bliss of letting my mind wonder, and that this time of reflection has indeed brought me to invaluable realizations.

However, I have the terrible habit of staying there. I constantly stay up in my own head. Walking just lets me do it without distractions, ie..work and stuff.

I constantly frett over the past and future.

Never letting myself be truly present.

Never paying attention to my life around me as its happening in the now.

Never seeing the road right in front of me.

The universe, life itself, gave me a glimpse and a reminder to be mindful.

Life is a constant balancing act, and I want to balance my introspection with my outward mindfulness.

I chose the picture with the turtle because It reminded me of a time life rewarded me for opening my eyes and being present.

I was at the lake with my mom, just blissfully taking in the air and looking at the rocks. Not a thought or care in the world. Then there he was. Cute as can be! I would have passed him up completely if I weren’t just taking in the precious moment.

Thank you for reading my brain dump.

I hope it will remind you to take a deep breath, free yourself from the imprisonment of memories and fears, and look around you.

Take in the moment. âĪ

L….is for the way you look at me.

“Love was such a mixture of things, each love with it’s own flavor and spice.”

-The Revolution of Marina M.

-Janet Fitch

This post is about L.O.V.E….

LOVE BABY!

Famously and widely know as one of the most powerful forces and emotions on earth.

I am extremely grateful for the overwhelming abundance of love I have in my life.

Not just in my life presently, but have always had.

However, just like everyone else, love has proven to be a much broader spectrum than I could have ever imagined.

Just like Bubba  from the movie Forest Gump, we can list off all the types of love we can think of:

Friendship love

Lustful love

Selfish love

Unrequanted love

Motherly love

Loyal love

And the list could go on and on.

*Side note– I just realized you could turn this post into a drinking game of how many times I write the word love. I’m not the best writer, so I’m probably going to over use the hell out of it. 😂😂😂

Okay….any who…back on topic.

This post is going to be about a specific type of love.

Self love.

I believe that there is something meaningful to be gained from every human relationship we have, and have had.

That being said…

I’ve been married twice.

I’m twenty nine years old.

*Another side note- I was hoping for three by thirty….but I’ve only been dating my current boyfriend for three weeks….soooo….no dice. 😂

Ugh…I’m so sorry! I’m having a hard time writing this post. I keep getting distracted, my thoughts racing and jumping all over the place. I’ve been working on this post off and on for two days now….

I wonder why that is?

I normally just treat these posts like they were mild PG diary entries, or a place to just brain dump.

I guess this post is a true abstract representation of the subject matter itself.

Hard to pin point.

Just like this post love can be: messy, confusing, all over the place with ups and downs. Endearing and whimsical.

Enough rambling from my crazy ass. Haha

My point is this- both of those marriages lasted about 4 years each.

After each one had ended, I felt a deep depression and mourning for time lost. A horrible self hatred and shame for making such terrible mistakes.

How could I be so weak?

How could I just lose myself like that?

Why couldn’t I see the blatant red flags that we were so obviously not suited for each other?

How could I make the same mistake F@#*ing TWICE!!!!

Well, to anyone who has made it this far, through those marriages- I finally gained self love.

I have finally realized that there are no mistakes as long as you learn from them, and try to be a better person by them. If you do that….then they transform from mistakes to life lessons.

When I read that quote…I immediately thought of my two ex husbands, and then, myself.

“Each love with it’s own flavor and spice”

Because of those two goons I’m stronger, happier, and have gained my self worth.

I look forward to all my future relationships.

I look forward to growing as a person with the help and experiences of the people around me.

I hope to anyone who is reading this….that of all the different types of love out there…you have self love. âĪ

Learn to look at yourself in the mirror the way your loved ones look at you.

*Final side note- This picture is of my dog Penelope cuddling up next to me while I’m reading. The picture may not encapsulate self love….but to me….it encapsulates love as a whole.

Thank you for reading.