Toxicity of People Pleasing

This post is going to be a little raw.


I was reading along in my book, almost done by the way, and I came across a scene that really hit home.

I’ve been struggling all day, debating with myself on whether or not I should even write this post.

However, after a long stroll of contemplation and hauty debate with myself, I decided this topic is important.

So here we are.

I don’t think I’ve been doing this blog long enough for anyone to be reading the books along with me, bbbuuuuttt, if anyone happens to be reading The Revolution of Marina M., then:

*Spoiler Alert.

Our protagonist, Marina, gets thrown into a Bolshevik Cheka camp for women. This is when the Cheka are killing off counterrevolutionaries and suspected bourgeoisie. Everyday the Cheka are calling names and imprisonment IDs by the thousands to be interrogated. Most of the women never come back. After weeks of withering away alongside her fellow persecuted comrades, her name is finally called.

She fatefully ends up being interrogated by an old friend.

A youthful but relentless girl by the name of Varvara.

Though, washed over by an extreme wave of relief, she is not entirely saved.

She takes refuge with her acquainted interrogator.

You find out quickly that Varvara has always loved her in a more intimate nature, than revealed in their youth.

Marina is never forced into anything.

However, she feels obligated to partake in intimate relations with Varvara. After all, she saved her from imprisonment and death! She is not into women herself, but she dismisses this fact. She owes Varvara.

She has already experienced a multitude of abuses at this point. Sex was no longer sacred or beautiful to her anyway. So what does it matter? She is numb to the experience.

I’m not saying I’ve experienced anything like this.

Not even remotely.

However, I have had certain situations happen where I felt obligated to do things I didn’t really want to for the sake of another person. Whether I felt I owed it to them, or I just felt insecure in their relationship to me, or I was haunted by my past discrepancies.

I have learned time and time again that doing things solely for others, things that could be hurtful to you, is NEVER THE ANSWER!

I was a toxic people pleaser for years. Always thinking I was doing the right thing. How could I be wrong if I’m being selfless?

There is a fine but critical line between people pleasing and being selfless.

Being selfless, in my opinion, is wanting to do something solely for someone else, while still keeping your ultimate well being in mind. You feel good about it afterward, while attaining the goal of helping someone.

People pleasing, is doing something for someone else, solely for the sake of pleasing them. Hence the name. No regard to yourself. No introspection. They just have to be happy.


Everytime, and I mean, E-V-E-R-Y-T-I-M-E, I’ve done something I didn’t want to do for the sake of some one else, it blows up in my face. Everyone, and I mean, E-V-E-R-Y-O-N-E, ends up hurt in the end.

I like to think of it this way:

You know the ole saying, “You can’t truly love someone else, unless you love yourself first”?

Well, you can’t truly help someone if you hurt yourself along the way.

If anyone out there reading this, is in a “people pleasing” situation, and feels trapped. Please know that you are not alone, and you need to get out of it. Whether you are being pushed into it, or the person you are trying to please doesn’t even know you are hurting, you need to stop. Not only for the sake of yourself, but others.

You have strength, and a heart of gold.

This too shall pass.

Thank you for reading. ❤

P.s. My posts are a little heavy and intense due to the nature of the book I am reading. I plan on picking a much lighter and jovial book next. 😂😂


“Terror stretches time- all of hell can exist in a moment.”

-The Revolution of Marina M.

-Janet Fitch

I think this line is beautiful.

I’m not sure why.

It’s not about a beautiful thing.

Or a beautiful concept.

Such a poetic way to describe fear.

Fear- such an ugly thing.

In this blog, I write about quotes and lines that take me off guard, grab my attention, make me stop. They always grip me on a personal and relatable level.

This one took my breath.

I’ve gotten into the terrible habit of letting Fear control my life.

I’ve been extremely fortunate to have not had many truly terrifying experiences. However, somewhere, somehow, I let fear creep in little by little through my anxiety and depression. Seeping into my body like a toxic gas leak.

It truly does morph your perception of time and reality as you know it.

I’m trying my hardest to combat my fears.

I hope you are too.

I hope you find healthy outlets to help you cope.

Find something that can turn the ugliness of your life, into something beautiful.

The picture above is a concept piece I made.

I had so much hurt and anxiety built up inside me, fathered by fear.

I angrily jotted down a poem to rid myself of the toxic emotions. As soon as I finished the poem, I decided I wanted to turn my ugliness into beauty.

Regain control and power.

That symbolic transformation birthed the portrait above.

It’s something just for me.

A constant reminder that I have the power to transform.

My foundations may be crude, but the finished product is beautifully me.

Fear to Love.

Terror to Beauty.

Take back your life and your time.

Thank you for reading. ❤

L….is for the way you look at me.

“Love was such a mixture of things, each love with it’s own flavor and spice.”

-The Revolution of Marina M.

-Janet Fitch

This post is about L.O.V.E….


Famously and widely know as one of the most powerful forces and emotions on earth.

I am extremely grateful for the overwhelming abundance of love I have in my life.

Not just in my life presently, but have always had.

However, just like everyone else, love has proven to be a much broader spectrum than I could have ever imagined.

Just like Bubba  from the movie Forest Gump, we can list off all the types of love we can think of:

Friendship love

Lustful love

Selfish love

Unrequanted love

Motherly love

Loyal love

And the list could go on and on.

*Side note– I just realized you could turn this post into a drinking game of how many times I write the word love. I’m not the best writer, so I’m probably going to over use the hell out of it. 😂😂😂

Okay….any who…back on topic.

This post is going to be about a specific type of love.

Self love.

I believe that there is something meaningful to be gained from every human relationship we have, and have had.

That being said…

I’ve been married twice.

I’m twenty nine years old.

*Another side note- I was hoping for three by thirty….but I’ve only been dating my current boyfriend for three weeks….soooo….no dice. 😂

Ugh…I’m so sorry! I’m having a hard time writing this post. I keep getting distracted, my thoughts racing and jumping all over the place. I’ve been working on this post off and on for two days now….

I wonder why that is?

I normally just treat these posts like they were mild PG diary entries, or a place to just brain dump.

I guess this post is a true abstract representation of the subject matter itself.

Hard to pin point.

Just like this post love can be: messy, confusing, all over the place with ups and downs. Endearing and whimsical.

Enough rambling from my crazy ass. Haha

My point is this- both of those marriages lasted about 4 years each.

After each one had ended, I felt a deep depression and mourning for time lost. A horrible self hatred and shame for making such terrible mistakes.

How could I be so weak?

How could I just lose myself like that?

Why couldn’t I see the blatant red flags that we were so obviously not suited for each other?

How could I make the same mistake F@#*ing TWICE!!!!

Well, to anyone who has made it this far, through those marriages- I finally gained self love.

I have finally realized that there are no mistakes as long as you learn from them, and try to be a better person by them. If you do that….then they transform from mistakes to life lessons.

When I read that quote…I immediately thought of my two ex husbands, and then, myself.

“Each love with it’s own flavor and spice”

Because of those two goons I’m stronger, happier, and have gained my self worth.

I look forward to all my future relationships.

I look forward to growing as a person with the help and experiences of the people around me.

I hope to anyone who is reading this….that of all the different types of love out there…you have self love. ❤

Learn to look at yourself in the mirror the way your loved ones look at you.

*Final side note- This picture is of my dog Penelope cuddling up next to me while I’m reading. The picture may not encapsulate self love….but to me….it encapsulates love as a whole.

Thank you for reading.

Oh….what little I know.

“I knew so little about life.”

-The Revolution of Marina M.

-Janet Fitch

So simple.

So…. very …..simple… and yet so powerful of a statement.

I think I read that line ten times over before I could move onto the next one.

Sort of hitting me between the eyes.

Everytime I think I have some sort of footing, a basic understanding of what life means, or simply just what MY life means, I get knocked off my feet.

Oh…..and oh boy … I know I’m not the only one!!!

Never in my wildest dreams would I have ever imagined life to be so complex.

I’m not even middle aged yet!!!!

There is so much more of this rollercoaster I get to ride! Well….knock on wood! 🤣

So much I don’t know.

The thought of what else is out there for me and what more I will learn brings about a multitude of feelings.

A perfect storm of both overwhelming and simultaneous fear and excitement.

One emotion being stronger than the other only depending on what day it is and how I’m feeling.

This balance between fear and excitement is a life balance everyone is trying to attain, I feel.

I do not want fear to overpower my life.

I will not let fear overpower my life.

I will try my hardest to not let fear overpower my life. 😂

Life lessons I have learned, and yet, oh…what little I know.

I’ve decided I wanted to use a specific format for my blog posts.

1. Picture

2. Quote

3. Insert random thoughts and writing stuffs.

For this post I didnt know what picture to use. What kind of picture does one use for the menial understanding of life?! Hahaha

So….I went with me holding a frog.

I’m rarely symbolic.

However, it just seems appropriate, right?

A tiny fragile creature being held in the hands of a larger unknown force.

Also, on another note, catching frogs is one of my “happy bobbies”. A small simple calming pleasure I can have to be united with nature….to be united with life.

Enough of my babbling.

It’s so easy to just word vomit my brain out on this thing. 🤣🤣

Thank you for reading!

What are yalls daunting life lessons?

Let’s talk about what we’ve learned and what we do know.

A quote on the importance of slowing down

“A little change is a good thing, Marina,” she said. “But one needs tranquility to absorb it. Too much change and it’s just a hurricane. We don’t have time to make sense of it as we’re tumbling down the street.”

– The Revolution of Marina M

-Janet Fitch

These lines really resonated with me at this point of my life.

I hadn’t realized that I had made the habit of hopping from one whirlwind to the next. Over and over again. Never being content in the stillness. Always feeling an internal stir and anxiety.

My body had kind of forced me to stop.


The experience of forced solitude was extremely uncomfortable at first.

Left with no distractions.

No drama

Just my thoughts.

I had to move back home so my parents could take care of me.

It’s been a year now.

A year has passed from my last hurricane.

A year of walking down the road of solitude and stillness.

I think now….I’m finally finding tranquility, and am making sense if my past.

It’s no longer haunting me. Just memories and building blocks of who I am now.

I hope to anyone out there who is drowning in the waves…..please….find your way to stillness.

Dont wait until its forced on you.

Try and find your peace now.

I highly doubt anyone reads this. 🤣

That is 100% okay. It’s more for me than anything else.

However, if anyone wants to share any thoughts on this. Dont hesitate! I’d love for you to share!

My first post! Woot woot!

Welcome to Page Prescription!

Books are the best therapy, and I don’t know about y’all, but ya girl needs a lot of therapy! 😂

I’m starting off this healing journey with:

“The Revolution of Marina M.”

By Janet Fitch

So far so good! I’m only about a quarter of the way through, but, I find the story ironically poetic, or…justly poetic?

Hhhmmmm. I’m not the best at this ya’ll 😂

Annnnnnywho….I picked this book for a few specific reasons.

1) When you are depressed, and/or overly anxious, you are naturally mentally and physically exhausted. Due to this exhaustion, I had taken a year long sabbatical from reading. I figured to get motivated to start reading again I’d pick up something simple and fun. An easy read that would make me swoon and smile. This fits the ticket. Eloquently written with an easy flow to it.

2) I wanted to be able to guarantee that whatever book I picked, it would keep my interest. Really hook me. A strong jumpstart to becoming an avid reader again. This book is a historical fiction written by an established author. Ba-da bing Ba-da boom…..I’m hooked.

3) This is probably the best reason why I picked this book. With all the libraries being shut down due to Covid-19….I wasnt sure where I wanted to get my new read. So what did I do? I went to good ole Walley World…found the $5 book bin, and fished me out a hardcover winner!


I have already found a few lines from this novel that have really touched me. Words that I found both articulate and applicable to my life. Especially at this point in my life, with all of its rough edges and uncertainties.

I look forward to going through Marina’s journey, page by page. Maybe I’ll learn some things about myself alongside her?

I’ll keep you posted. ❤